How To Make Decisions As Intuitive Perfectionist

As a very intuitive person that is also a perfectionist it can get confusing to pinpoint whether something is fear or intuition.

I used to be so sure of my theory that intuition is calm and fear is agitated.

But I am revisiting my theory.

Of course, if something feels totally off in your body I wouldn’t recommend to jump into it with open arms.

I am not here to downgrade our intuition. It’s so real and true.

After all that would be ironic of my part. My whole life philosophy is around following our inner guidance.

Though lately I am noticing more clearly how our mind distorts our thinking and feeling about certain situations.

I believe intuition, INITIALLY feels calm, but then, as the mind and the fears kick in something that was initially peaceful and flowy can become scary and unknown to the mind and body.

Simply because IT IS unknown. If we have never been there, if something is unknown territory, it’s going to feel restless in the body.

I don’t think what I am saying is rocket science, although I think this distinction is important:

A) things that are for you, will come to you, naturally, flowly, peacefully

B) When you have to finally address them, fears and the mind might kick in (that doesn’t mean it’s not right)

C) This is where having tools, self-regulation and control over our own mind and body is so important; Try having control over the mind, try calming your nervous system, and DO things, even if they are not “right”.

I think point C is where a lot of “intuitive perfectionists” freeze. They fear that they are overruling their intuition and making the wrong decision.

But I want to ask you, what’s the worst that could happen? If you are taking this decision from the only certainty you have which is, YOU DON’T KNOW, and, from I DECIDE I want to try this.

If it comes from this grounded place it would have just been a direction YOU chose to take, right now, with what you know.

I believe as intuitive people it can become easy to put everything in the hands of faith forgetting we are the ones directing it.

I don’t mean by this that we are in charge of our fates and destinies, but what I do believe is that we are the ones driving the wheel, and we have to become much much much better at making decisions.

At putting one step in front of the other, regardless of where that foot takes you, it’s always right.

There is one thing that I have come to understand about decision-making as years of experience as an “intuitive perfectionist” and it’s this:

It’s less about making the right decision than it is about making decisions whole-heartedly.

That’s what it means to make a decision from a more grounded place or regulating your nervous system; it’s calming yourself and whole-heartedly deciding for a direction rather than being scattered all over the place fearing there is ONE direction.

It’s an illusion that making the “right” decision is what will make you grounded. It’s making a decision from a grounded place that makes it “the right decision”.